Relationships

Most people spend their time focusing on their jobs, their hobbies, their possessions or their problems and not on their relationships.  As a consequence their relationships suffer. 

Here’s The Rub:

Relationships are one of the top two areas in life where we find real joy, regardless of how much money you make, who you know, where you live or what you have.  We are social creatures by nature and must find a mate and get along with them, otherwise plain and simply, you will never be truly fulfilled.

Just so we are really clear about this inherent human need, here’s something to think about, it’s called “Failure to Thrive Syndrome.” This is where a baby that is left alone, without being stroked and loved will die.  As human beings if we don’t get love, we suffer or even die!

How about this: Think about these two polar opposite relationship experiences:  1) conversing with someone online verses 2) going to a concert with 20,000 people.  Different energy level?

Proof is in the Sack!
Imagine at the end of the night you’ve had a long day, worked your but off and you crawl into bed alone with no one to share your story and no one to comfort or encourage you.  Then you wake up the next day and once again you’re alone.  If you are at all in touch with your human emotions you will feel undeniable loneliness from this scenario.  But rather than be ashamed of being lonely, which is a natural human emotion everyone deals with from time to time, the point here is to listen to your Needs and Desires and take some action.

Why Do Relationships Fail?

A relationship is a place to give and share.  It doesn’t mean that one person is the center of attention all the time.  When there is imbalance here or one person gets left out, conflict will eventually be the effect.

You must love yourself first in order to love someone else.  If you go into a relationship looking for someone else to fulfill your lack of self-love, this is a recipe for disaster.  It’s called co-dependency and will result in constant conflict. While you can learn more about personal power or self-love in our “personal power” section, we can run a simple test here by looking into a mirror.  Remember Self Honesty is the only thing that will ever set you free

If this sounds corny to you or you are totally unwilling to try it out, I Guranatee You Don’t Love Yourself and you continue to experience relationships with lots of conflict.  Isn’t it worth just taking 1 minute to find out?  This is totally real and will reveal what’s going on underneath the hood of your life. 

Ok here we go, just step up to a mirror and say “you are the best, you have the best ability to (fill in the blank with one your best qualities), I love you ( your name).

Now, Here’s The Answer To Your Test
If you felt uncomfortable when you said these things in the mirror, realize that you need to work on self-love.

Are your relationships driven by rules? 

Values Alignment
This is the number one tool of the Top Relationship Experts.  Basically if you and your partner quibble often or just don’t jibe, chances are you have different values and no matter what you say or do Nothing Will Change! 

Here is why.  At the root of all human actions are values and beliefs.  For instance, I want romance because this means you truly love me or I don’t like drinking or drugs because my Mom died from them and I refuse to go down that road.

So in the instance above if Mary and Mike are in a relationship and Mary loves to drink but mike thinks it’s the path of Satan, what do you think happens when they go to a party?  Its not going to be pretty I can tell you that.  Take this example and translate it into any belief or value and if they are not aligned you will have Guaranteed Problems.

So How Do We Align Our Values?

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This kit will contain a PDF titled Dream Tools Values Alignment, which you can use to align your values.  This is an invaluable resource and turned my own relationship from constant conflict to a harmony, respect and deep connection.

Single?

If you’re single and would like to find the right person you need to first understand why you are not already in a relationship.  Without this you will never address the root of the problem and it will occur over and over and over and over guaranteed!

Want To Know How to Attract The Right Person?

According to the best relationship experts, personal development experts and philosophers of time, your outer life and your relationships or lack thereof are simply a mirror of what is going on inside your life.

Sounds simple enough, but when you think about it, it’s a lot to swallow.  “You mean there is something wrong with me,” your ego may say.  No there is nothing wrong with you, there is just something inside of you that is very right and needs to be WOKEN UP!

Lets take for example, Dan (real guy but fictitious name).  Dan is rich and successful, but always falls for pretty girls who only really want him for his money.  Does Dan have any spiritual beliefs?  Does Dan have any mission other than to make a lot of money and prove that he is worthy to the world?  Does Dan ever take time to help others who are struggling? 

Probably not and this is why he attracts such shallow girls who never satisfy him.  The problem is, even though he may not know this consciously, subconsciously he doesn’t want a shallow person.  He would much rather be with someone who held him to a higher standard.

To attract the right person you need to be that person!

Its that simple.  If you want a person who has high standards you need to raise your standards mentally, physically and spiritually. When you raise your standards you will place yourself in different social settings, different super markets, different schools and you will meet different people.

Here is the big benefit here.  Once you set this goal to raise your standards, you not only get the right relationship, but you get something much better.  Better than a relationship?

Yes, better.  I’m talking about growth and contribution.  You will grow and contribute which will ultimately make you INDEPENDENTLY HAPPY in your relationship so don’t fall prey to Co-Dependency, one of the biggest traps of all relationships.

Where Do I find The Right Person?

Before you set out on a journey to find the right person, make sure you use our Relationship Finder Tool, which is included in your Free Dream Tools Kit.  You can subscribe for free if you haven’t already.  Just fill on the Righ where it says Get Your Free Dream Tools Kit >>>>>